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Thoughts About Whipping Chapter 4
You are not always neutral when you read or hear the word 'whipping'. There is an immediate mental image of women nude or near nude, stretched skin glowing in fire lights, or candle light, or moonlight, and pink stripes on skin. Some of these fantasies may be extremely erotic and appealing...some too frightening to explore. When you were a little girl you might have been good at organizing being captured by cowboys or Indians or pirates. At some time you may have explored bondage which allows a lover to play with your body without your specific permission.
We need to define what may be acceptable here and what is not. Many women have been abused. We are not in favor of any abusive behavior whether verbal or physical. Those who abuse need to be severely beaten and then jailed. However, the body of a healthy woman has an infinite variety of appetites. Often she enjoys being aroused by sensations that clearly increase in intensity as hours of love making search for longer lasting more intense climaxes. Your body is a sensational arrangement of nerve endings hidden in erotic curves and capable, as blood rushes to wherever and however those erotic nerves are stimulated, of wishing more and more to see how high you can go and what your erotic limits might be. When aroused you may wish sensations a considerate lover might not give you...and that is a very good way to evaluate acceptable lovers. When you want what might be questionable in intensity, you must trust the judgement and self control of your lover. The purpose of this week is to explore new excitements but also to learn the safe path through the endless varieties of fantasy. Marks that fade in a day may be intensely enjoyable to acquire. Stronger activities are not acceptable here and should not be intrinsic in your future love life. You are the most important being alive to those who love you and wish to have you love them. Excitement is wonderful. Damage is not acceptable.
That said, if you are not deeply experienced in the realities of BD/SM how do you learn? Is it easier to explore the submissive role first or the dominant? If you are the teacher and no one has taught you, where do you begin and what do you actually do? First you must realize who is in control when heavier sensations are part of the menu. The submissive must always be in control. There are no exceptions to this rule.
Your job is to arouse her to new heights. That will more than excite you, but your needs and pleasure must always come after hers.
Better love making generally begins with soft touches when a romantic mood has been set and both of you can explore passion without fear of unwanted interruption. The outside world must go away. In the beginning of good love making, you as lovee realize your lover wishes to spend hours teasing, playing with, and exciting you. Your job is to relax and allow the journey. Eventually you may wish to reciprocate but in our screenplay that will come tomorrow night. For these hours, all attention and activity centers on your body and after the first and second climax, the more intense explorations begin.
You are a package of highly erotic desirable parts. Each part of you speaks with a different voice. The harmony response from the instrument of your body is totally determined by how your lover plays with your body and watches your reactions. If you are lightly and then more firmly stroked and strapped under one arm, and down one side, and around and over all of one breast for as long as it takes for you to become pink in that area and perhaps breathing noticeably faster, your body is sending literally millions of new messages to your brain, to your heart, and to your kitty. The parts being played with are tingling madly...it's twin on the other side is demanding equal attention...and there is a ringing chorus from all the other parts shouting "me too..me too!!".
Now there are simply endless variations to this adventure. Your position is
frequently changed...at times vibrators are exciting on one or two parts while clamps are working elsewhere and toys of every variety are painting you ever rosier...and there are climaxes, and there is constant loving attention as your lover tries to exactly learn where you are and what you love and what would excite you even more. And there are loving breaks with hugging and holding and rest and refreshment. And then, perhaps, the next round begins anew. Desirable enjoyable memorable torture between caring lovers may be one of life's highest achievements. It is a worthy goal for any woman willing to live to her highest capacity. And, as always, if you are the lucky woman who is tonight's student you will be the teacher tomorrow night. Every sensation you enjoy receiving, you can give to the one trying to take you to the highest peak of your life. You probably can not now remember most weeks of last year or any other recent year. But you will remember this week forever.
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